Types of Abuse
A. Physical Violence.
Such as name calling, criticism, mind games and humiliating behaviour.
Threats of injury, false accusations and allegations, lies, being left homeless, injury while you sleep.
Damaging parent child relationships, compelling children to take sides in disputes, denying access to children, threats of injury to oneself or the children.
Jealousy of the relationship with your children, family and friends. Invasion of privacy, such as reading private documents /letters/text messages etc.
Denying and Blaming:
Denying any abuse to a partner or child, putting the blame on the abused parent, using excuses such as overwork to minimise the abuse.
Controlling finances, having to account for every cent spent, not having access to your own earnings, your partner putting the family into debt etc.
Threatening to commit suicide or self harm.
1: The Marriage and Relationship Counselling Service (MRCS).
3: A study for the Department of Health and Children.
The MRCS study found that domestic violence between couples tends to be mutual in a third of the cases(33%), female-perpetrated in four out ten couples (42%) and male-perpetrated in a quarter of couples (25%).
The Accord study found that where domestic Violence occurs, (46%) involved mutual violence; in (30%) of cases it was perpetrated by women only and in (24%) by men only.
The Department of Health study found, where domestic violence occurs, (50%) was mutual with the remainder divided equally between women-only and men-only perpetration.
These findings reflect the results of all independent two-sex studies carried out world-wide.
Impact of Abuse on Children
Statistics of Domestic violence against children has lagged behind that of abuse against Parents. The reason for this is a tendency to classify parents and children together. Emerging evidence of Parental Domestic Violence affects every member of the family including children, therefore society must recognise that Domestic Child Abuse exists and can no longer be ignored. Children that witness abuse and are also the subject of abuse receive a double blow. The affects of such abuse will vary depending on the frequency, intensity of the abuse, their age, type of abuse and what support mechanisms are in place. A child who witnesses abuse is more likely to abuse a partner in adult life. As long as attempts to address Domestic Abuse deems that men are the only perpetrators it is unlikely to reach the source of a gender abuse issue Committed on children. A constructive balanced review is needed to establish the effects of Domestic Violence on children and the effective remedies for such abuse.
We must insist on an advertisement campaign to stop Domestic Violence against the Person (men women and children).